If you're like many mission-driven entrepreneurs, you are passionate about what you do. But you may experience a lurking, hidden fear of being seen and heard. It's kinda crazy, right? You have so much to offer, but letting people know about what you do in ways that lead them to work with you can be such a challenge.Today I'm diving into understanding the fear of being seen, how it negatively affects your business, and some suggested practices to help you can begin to turn the fear around.
Read MoreDo you ever wonder why so many mission-driven entrepreneurs find getting really clear on what they offer and how to talk about it to prospective clients so difficult?FEAR plagues many women entrepreneurs who want to make a difference. Fear has many faces. I’ll talk about several of them here in the next few weeks.
Read MoreDesires drive us through life whether it’s to, get an education and pursue a career, Ffind a mate and have children, run and grow a successful business. Our desires give us the energy, power, and perseverance to follow our dreams and keep at it when the going gets tough. But for many women, our true desires are not supported or even allowed.
Read MoreIt is the season of Love, and I think it’s time that we have a talk.You may not get a card or chocolates from me this Valentine's Day, but I have a much more important gift for you.
Read MoreWhat happens to you when you say, “I am valuable”, to yourself? Do you cringe, want to hide, or think, “That’s just not true!”? If you are like many of us, you’ve had experiences where you were told, either verbally or through behavior, that you are not valuable.
Read MoreI recently listened to an audio class about the ascent of the planet Venus in the evening sky. Each month as Venus meets the new moon, she passes through another “gate” that corresponds to the chakras in the human body. As Venus ascends through each gate, we are given the opportunity and support to strengthen that area of our life. Venus recently passed through the first gate of her ascent so this month is about the Root Chakra, which is located at the base of your body.
Read MoreIn the race to keep the plates spinning and the business moving ahead, it’s easy to forget all the gifts of the year. They often come in the form of challenges. Some of the challenges I faced this year were real - like the death of my beloved dog. Others demanded changes of perspective and breaking up long-held perceptions.
Read MoreThis is a guest post by Jessica Lauren Vine Ever since I have been a kid, I have been a little bit weird. I’ve always had an opinion on everything and didn’t really care who agreed with me. I always had a faithful crew that was down for whatever even when it seemed as if the world was against me. Yes, this was before I hit my teenage years.
Read MoreI heard that the native peoples of Central America did not see the Spaniards coming way back in 1492. They had never seen anything like the ships that Christopher Columbus and his crew arrived on, so they could not recognize them or accept them. Many of us mission-driven entrepreneurs are like those natives. Our experience and worldview often does not include abundance, plenty, and profit for ourselves. We’ve often been the outliers, the folks who are a little weird, wired a little differently.
Read MoreLast week on a Facebook group, someone posted a link to a blog post by Mike Hrostoski called “F*** You Spiritual People for Using Gratitude as a Bypass to Your Anger”. I'll not give you the whole link because I don't want to offend anyone by cussing here, but if you want to read all of Mike’s rant, fill in the blank letters and you'll find it online here. The title shocked me so of course I checked it out. Mike really got his rant on and as I read his post, I felt a resonance with what he was saying. He expressed what had been niggling in the back of my mind, but wouldn't let myself admit.
Read MoreIf you are new to your own business or come from a corporate or a therapeutic practice background, figuring out the “new rules of business” can be confusing. You want to be pragmatic and have a heart at the same time. You find yourself trying to give away too much. You watch how other people do their business and decide you don’t want to do it the way they do.
Read MoreYou’ve had that experience when someone sold you a product, but it didn’t work the way it was promised. Or you may have felt “pressured” into buying something that you didn’t really need or want, but you did it any way to be nice or pleasing.
Read MoreIn mid-September I visited Southport, NC, a lovely coastal town that was featured in the movie Safe Haven (based on the book by Nicholas Sparks). I have been to Southport several times before because both a good friend and several of my cousins live there. This time was different. I was going to present a talk to the women’s group of the local Chamber of Commerce. I was nervous, I was excited, I was prepared.
Read MoreIt's perceived wisdom that in business the shark wins. The aggressive, the fast, the dominant take the spoils. The nice guy or gal isn't going to win, so s/he might as well get out of the way. Too many of us nice, smart people are intimidated by the myth of the shark
Read MoreDo you turn into “Meek Molly” when you talk to a prospective client about working with you?Do you become “Bulldozer Betty” by being overly aggressive and pushy? Do you play “Avoiding Annie” and just skip the whole sales conversation all together? I’ve played each one of these roles in sales, and honestly, none of them have worked very well. It’s just the oddest thing how a confident adult turns into a child, an awkward teen, or a bully when faced with selling her services.
Read MoreDo you ever feel stuck - that what you want to happen just isn’t, and you don’t know what to do about it? Your answer could be CHOICE. That’s right, making a choice. Choosing. Deciding, and then doing something about it. At a recent training on Business Leadership Mastery, Rachael Jayne Groover, the coach and trainer, began the conversation with “Where are you in your business?” Participants in Business Leadership Mastery with Rachael Jayne Groover – Denver July 2014
Read MoreAs we in the United States celebrate our independence on July 4th, I pause to appreciate all the freedoms we enjoy in this country: freedom of speech, freedom of assembly, and freedom to pursue our version of happiness to name a few. Compared to many other women throughout the world, we have so much to give thanks for in the freedoms with which we lead our daily lives and pursue our dreams. Yet, I've noticed that many women in business rarely feel free to experience joy and feel fulfilled. We put ourselves last on our To Do List, if we are there at all, and we give much of our time, energy, and talent to others without asking for anything in return.
Read MoreThese days, women have a lot of gripes with men: they don’t communicate their feelings, they don’t help around the house, they let the kids get away with murder or are too hard on them, they don’t appreciate us enough, they’re cranky, they’re not romantic, they only want to watch tv and have sex. You could probably add your own complaints to the list. But here’s the question: Are you letting the men in your life support you? I’m talking about ALL the men in your life, not just your partner, but also your colleagues at work; the guy who mows your lawn; and your brother, father, or son.
Read MoreIn the aftermath of the death of my beloved companion dog Sophie, I have had to pay much closer attention to self-care. I have been tired and distracted by grief. I couldn't concentrate enough to work very much for the first three weeks after she died. Even reading was a challenge as my mind and body were processing her absence. The last time I lost a major figure in my life was 27 years ago when my father died with ALS (Lou Gehrig's Disease). After his funeral I went back to work and managed the roller coaster of grief by pushing the painful feelings away.
Read MoreI recently told my coach that I thought my Inner Teenager was getting in the way of making progress in my business. She asked me what I meant. I was immediately taken back to the days when I was tall, gawky, pimply-faced with glasses and braces. I desperately wanted to fit in, but I didn’t. I wanted to find my way, but I didn’t know how.
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