I’d like to talk to you about another habit that can handicap your success. And that is: you don’t say no.I know. Saying no can be difficult. It’s also known as “setting a boundary.” And setting a boundary can be easy. Enforcing it can be harder. So we’re just going to talk a bit today about where you don’t feel like you can say no.
Read MoreToday, I want to talk to you about the habit of not asking. I see this in so many people. I see it in myself, too. And I know that the more we ask, the more we have the opportunity to succeed. We also have more opportunity to be told no. But unless you ask, you don’t know if it’s a yes, no, or a maybe. So how this shows up is that, maybe you’re too shy to ask. Or you don’t think you have the right to ask. Or you’re afraid that somebody’s going to say no. Or worse yet, criticize you. So what this leads to are missed opportunities, that you take less action, and you proceed less quickly—because the next stepping stone may have shown up if you asked for it. And if you don’t, then you’re kind of left where you are.
Read MoreToday, I want to talk to you about one habit that I see that handicaps people’s success. And in particular, women entrepreneurs’ success. And what is a habit? A habit is a repeated practice. And because it’s repeated, it sometimes will go unconscious—and we don’t even think about it. Like, driving to a familiar location, you probably don’t have to think about it very much. But these habits can get in the way of our success. And so, I want to talk to you about it—and what you can do about it to begin to turn it around.
Read MoreWhen I lived in Manhattan, I adopted a “don’t mess with me” posture. I made little eye contact, kept my purse near my body, and pretended that I had on body armor so that I appeared stronger and tougher than I felt on the streets and in the subways of New York City. I usually don’t need that posture now that I live in North Carolina, but I know how to adopt it if I’m in a dark alley walking to a parking lot. I get out my mace and put on my “leave me alone armor”. I’ve been thinking about how the energy we project affects us in business.
Read MoreDo you ever say, “I’m not that special”, to yourself when you hear someone give a great intro at a networking event, hear the bio of a successful person in your industry, or read about the accomplishments of a well-known and highly respected person? I know I do. I confess to having “Accomplishment Envy”, and in the past it made me insecure about my own abilities and what I offer to my clients. You can believe this envy negatively impacted my ability to sell with confidence!
Read MoreAs we continue to explore the fears that hold you back from serving more clients, making a bigger impact, and enjoying more income, we come to one that threatens so many mission-driven entrepreneurs and service practitioners: The Fear of Standing Out!
Read MoreIf you're like many mission-driven entrepreneurs, you are passionate about what you do. But you may experience a lurking, hidden fear of being seen and heard. It's kinda crazy, right? You have so much to offer, but letting people know about what you do in ways that lead them to work with you can be such a challenge.Today I'm diving into understanding the fear of being seen, how it negatively affects your business, and some suggested practices to help you can begin to turn the fear around.
Read MoreDo you ever wonder why so many mission-driven entrepreneurs find getting really clear on what they offer and how to talk about it to prospective clients so difficult?FEAR plagues many women entrepreneurs who want to make a difference. Fear has many faces. I’ll talk about several of them here in the next few weeks.
Read MoreThis is a guest post by Jessica Lauren Vine Ever since I have been a kid, I have been a little bit weird. I’ve always had an opinion on everything and didn’t really care who agreed with me. I always had a faithful crew that was down for whatever even when it seemed as if the world was against me. Yes, this was before I hit my teenage years.
Read MoreIf you are new to your own business or come from a corporate or a therapeutic practice background, figuring out the “new rules of business” can be confusing. You want to be pragmatic and have a heart at the same time. You find yourself trying to give away too much. You watch how other people do their business and decide you don’t want to do it the way they do.
Read MoreI recently told my coach that I thought my Inner Teenager was getting in the way of making progress in my business. She asked me what I meant. I was immediately taken back to the days when I was tall, gawky, pimply-faced with glasses and braces. I desperately wanted to fit in, but I didn’t. I wanted to find my way, but I didn’t know how.
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