Habits that Handicap Your Success - Confidence

Today, I want to talk to you about one habit that I see that handicaps people’s success. And in particular, women entrepreneurs’ success.

And what is a habit? A habit is a repeated practice. And because it’s repeated, it sometimes will go unconscious—and we don’t even think about it. Like, driving to a familiar location, you probably don’t have to think about it very much.

But these habits can get in the way of our success. And so, I want to talk to you about it—and what you can do about it to begin to turn it around.

So the 1st habit that can handicap your success is Lack of Confidence.

We see it every day. Somebody’s got something great to share, but they’re really shy about it. Or they’re hesitant. Or they don’t even talk about it.

How Lack of Confidence Shows Up

So lack of confidence can show up in a number of different ways—internally as well:

  • self-doubt,
  • second guessing,
  • catastrophizing or making everything really a big dramatic deal, like the world is going to end.

But the main problem with all of these aspects of lack of confidence is NOT TAKING ACTION.

And if there’s anything I’ve learned in my business it’s, the more action you take, the more opportunity you have for success. So just look and see if this is something that you are dealing with, a lack of confidence.

It can also show up as the impostor syndrome. Like, “Who am I to do this?” And if it does, then that’s going to stop you as well.


So I’d like to give you a remedy for lack of confidence:

And that is to get in your body. Get in your body. Get out of your head and into your body.

So how do you do that? Well, you take your attention from all those thoughts that are swirling around, and put it down into your lower body: into the bottom of your body, on the bottom of your torso, where you’re sitting. Into your lower pelvis, pelvic area, into your lower abdomen, your pelvic area. And your ribcage.

So why there? Well, that’s closer to the Earth, and it’s more grounded. And that’s actually the center of our creativity and our power—in that area of your body. It also could be called your animal self.

So that’s another way to get into your body: putting your attention there. But also becoming an animal.

So if you like cats, maybe you’d become a lynx or a jaguar. If you like dogs, maybe you’d become your favorite breed of dog. Or if you like horses, you’d become a horse. An elephant, a giraffe, an otter, a bird.

What would happen if you were an animal and had a strong tail that you swished on the Earth?

Would that help you feel more confidence? Unless an animal has been abused, they just kind of go about their business, doing their thing. And they don’t lack confidence.


So today’s assignment, should you wish to accept it is: get in your body and become an animal. And see what happens.

See what happens to those thoughts. See what happens to your ability to take action on what you know you want and need to do in your business today.

And I really invite you to say yes to your own confidence.

So that’s it for today, and I will see you next time with another habit that can handicap your success.

P.S. Next week we'll talk about another habit that inhibits your success and an easy action to take to get past it.