Is It Yours?
Adele, let’s talk about how to uncover a hidden limiter of making more confident choices with the question, “Is it yours?”
Watch the video or read the article and let me know how using this tip helps you make more confident decisions.
Why is asking this question important?
Recently, I noticed that I was getting really agitated and irritated with people who were trying to help me. I'm not usually like that.
I thought, “This is weird. What is going on?” It was an impulse to be impatient, and I couldn't talk myself out of it.
So I asked the question that I learned from Access Consciousness, “Is this mine or is it someone else's?” It came to me that it was my dad's, not mine.
My father was a very bright man. He was an engineer and could fix anything. Patience was not his strong suit.
Math lessons and driving lessons with Daddy and I were pretty challenging when I was a teenager. The lessons didn’t last long as he got fed up and went off to do something else.
I thought about carrying and expressing my father’s impatience and said, “Well, that's not even mine.” I asked that it be cleared and the energy of it sent to the sun for recycling. I have started calming down and becoming more patient since then.
You may be experiencing emotions, thoughts, and states of being that aren't even yours. The problem is that they interfere with your full self-expression, confidence, and making choices that will move you, your business and your life forward.
So when something comes up that doesn’t seem like you or feels heavy or upsetting, ask “Whose is it?” If it’s not yours, imagine letting it go to the sun for recycling.
Another Use of This Question
Another application of this question is when you get a great idea for a product or a service or a new commitment, you can ask, “Whose is this?”
Why is that important? Well, I don't know about you, but I can go down a rabbit hole really, really quickly. It's like, “Oh, my gosh, that's such a great idea. I would love to do that.”
If I commit too quickly without sitting back and going, “Is this mine or is this someone else's?”, then I get in trouble. I overcommit, I get overwhelmed and making promises that I really don't want to fulfill.
Committing right away is a knee-jerk reaction for me. I'm learning to slow it down, ask, “Is this mine? Is this for me, or is it for someone else?”
You can ask that about projects. You can ask that about clients. You can ask that about volunteer opportunities,
"Is this for me, or is this for someone else?"
If it is for you, you can then ask, “Is this the time for me now, or is this for later?”
Have a “great ideas” book and jot down those things that are for you, but not right now.
Start asking that powerful question and watch what awareness and confidence starts showing up for you!