5 Habits that Encourage Success - Non Attachment & Acceptance
If you cringe at your mistakes or stop yourself from taking the next step in your business or feel completely confused and overwhelmed, this habit is for you!
It’s a simple practice from Eastern philosophy.
It can take the weight of perfectionism off your shoulders and get you back into action.
Watch the video or read the article below to learn about this habit.
Non-attachment is what Buddhist philosophy teaches: not being attached to the outcome and not making the outcome negative or positive.
And it’s such an easy thing to make what happens an, “Oh, my gosh, that happens. That’s so bad.” Or, “Oh, my goodness. That’s happened. That’s so great.” And yet, the ancient wisdom of Buddhism teaches us not to do that.
The Benefits of This Habit
Why that’s a habit that encourages your success is that, if you are not attached to the outcome, and you accept what happens, it takes you out of the failure conversation.
I’ve told you a little bit about my story of going to the big business expo, spending a lot of money, effort, and time to be there – and getting one client from it.
I could’ve made that into – in fact, I did! - I made that into a big failure moment, and kind of gnawed on that and thought about it, and oh my gosh, made it mean a lot about myself.
When, in fact, it as the turning point for me to discover that I could learn to sell in a way that has authenticity and integrity and truly serves – rather than manipulates.
That was a big turning point for me. But I didn’t accept it. I was attached to it. I didn’t accept it, and I made it into a failure – until I turned that around.
The Reality of Trying Things
One of the mega-coaches that I know – who has multi-million-dollar business – says that 80% of what she does does not work.
80% of what she does does not work. That’s a lot. So she’s in this non-attachment/acceptance conversation that leads her to more action.
She says, “Okay, that launch did not work. Let me figure out what didn’t work. Let me try something else. Let me try something else. Let me try something else – until I get it to work.”
That’s the power of acceptance and non-attachment: It gives you the resiliency to keep going for what you want.
When You Don't Practice This Habit
I don’t know about you, but sitting curled up in a fetal position – wondering what in the world’s wrong with you, because your launch didn’t work - or the sales conversation didn’t work - or you’re not getting enough leads – that is not really the most productive way to run a business.
Getting up and doing what has to be done every day is the way to do business. This habit gives you resiliency to keep going for it. And it takes you off the hook of being perfect and getting it right.
I know that’s a lot of what you deal with. A lot of people tell me, they deal with their perfectionism and it stops them.
If you don’t make it mean anything – if you don’t make it mean that you’re a bad person because your launch didn’t work or your expo booth didn’t sell or your marketing message isn’t quite honed in yet – it can give you a lot of energy to keep going.
An Example of Practicing This Habit
Just imagine taking that burden of self-recrimination, of, “I didn’t get it right. I’m not as good as I thought I was. I’m not as good as she is.”
Taking that off of you – can you feel how much freer you would be?
An example of this is – I’ve been doing these video series. And I’ve been doing a weekly Facebook Live.
I have worked in video before. I worked in New York City for CBS News and AT&T, and I was behind the camera -- did research, writing, directing, and producing. And I had a lot of experience.
I was never in front of the camera. It scared me so much.
But I know that doing video was really important for a business now, so I thought, “I’ve got to do it.” And I promised myself that I would do it, even if it wasn’t right, perfect, or if I didn’t look good.
If you’ve ever done a video and looked at yourself, it is so easy to be hyper-critical!
And that just doesn’t work. I have to accept how I look. I have to be non-attached to the results. I hope that you watch this and get something out of it – but I can’t control that. All I can do is control the actions that I take, and the way that I relate to the results.
What can you accept?
What can you get non-attached to today, this week?
Can you accept the fact that there’s more you can do in your business?
Can you be non-attached to how it comes out?
Because really, the only thing you have control over is what you do – and how you think about it. And how you feel about it.
Look and see how you might take a step into acceptance and non-attachment this week. Let me know how it goes.
I’ll be back next time with a bonus habit. And this one is going to be so fun! I hope you tune in. And until then, I wish you great prosperity and progress in your business.